Do what makes you uncomfortable now, to get where you want to be.

nWe have this big misconception that success doesn’t come without putting in some serious work. Take for instance a feature film. We are used to going to the movies and seeing this work of images put together but never question the years of work put into it. We see the trailer and months later sometimes weeks we get the film.
Making a murder was by far one of the single most interesting and most talk about documentaries. It took 10 years to make. 10 YEARS! I was 16 when they even began the concept. – Let’s just take a minute to reflect on that… I was just starting high school mmmkay.

Are we so used to getting things so quickly we don’t want to put in the work to obtain it? We are such a microwave society that we have found a way to “bake” a cupcake in a cup in the microwave rather than take the time to bake it in the oven.
mWe are so used to seeing these “overnight” successes in the media. These viral videos and reality TV hit it big, and now we have this idea that we are supposed to have it all figured out in our 20’s and on our way to retirement by 30.

In reality, that is just not the way things work. This concept leaves those who don’t have it figure out, those who are doing their due diligence to society, and those who are locked in to a major they care nothing about, feeling like they are the late bloomers in life. Like they are not doing something right and are wasting away their life. Sure if you want instant gratification then go right ahead and sell your soul, but to truly be successful it takes time.

l-296164Slow downnnnnnnn. Take a breath smell the roses. Life is a journey, not a race. And the biggest way to miss out on it is to start comparing your life to someone else-I know I have to remind myself that their journey is not my journey. –

Sometimes our journey requires doing things we don’t want to do or never saw ourself doing in order to get where we want to be. Some of us figure it out quicker than others, most of us get delayed, but we get  there. Just make sure it’s what you want. Don’t get there and hate every minute of it. life is way too short to do something you hate for a long time. Misery is not supposed to last always. -at least who wants it to?

485e81ab3feccbc4164a49cf967392eaSome days while I sit at the desk of one of my jobs- its levels to this- I sometimes have to figure up how much my check will be to remind myself of why i am even doing this in the first place. i have to keep visuals and daily reminders of the end goal in mind so that i don’t get too comfortable and complacent.

We all want to be successful. I want a full career of success. Success, longevity success, is hard work. Jim Carey, Denzel Washington, Steve Jobs, P.Diddy, Beyoncé, Dj Khaled, Jennifer Lopez etc… All those careers took time, dedication, and hard work. – Much like marriage everybody wants the happily ever after, but nobody wants the commitment to work towards it-
failingNobody wants to fail, however, failing is apart of learning. Learning what works, what needs to be tweaked, and what never to do again. So enjoy your failures. Learn from them and continue to grow and go. You only truly fail if you quit. Set backs spring you forward.

So lets take the time to enjoy this journey. Like i said before its not a race. We all have different destinations. Take the time to really build. put in the hard work and long hours now and remind yourself that all this will be worth it. Anything worth having is worth working for.

Let’s Recap, Toast to the Halfway Mark!

I had a lot of fun with the Month of Music. Thank you again to all the artist that allowed me to interview them, I enjoyed every minute! I hope some networking came from it, you got new fans, and maybe some new opportunities.

Now that the Month of Music is over, lets get back to our regularly schedule program. With it being June-OMG the year is halfway over AHHHHH!- I’ve been looking over my goals and I can’t believe I have everything pretty much checked off! How are you guys doing with that? -If you are lost, check this out.

Can you believe that was my very first goal of the year? Lets talk about something you guys may not know. I make a lot of things sound very easy on here, but life is not as breezy as it appears.

I have had a rough start to my year. One of the worst things -or so i thought- that happened was I got laid off from my full time job. For 30 seconds after I got laid off I panicked. All these thoughts about bills, money, and what to do next flooded my head. For the first time in a long time, I had absolutely no clue what I was going to do.

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After about 30 seconds of freaking out and praying, calmness came over me and I knew everything was going to be a
lright. It’s was going to be rocky, but it was going to be okay.

I took the time off to dive into things that were always just a dream to me. I got a wonderful opportunity to be on a popular TV show, I started my YouTube channel, and I really started to take my blogging seriously. Now all of this sounds so exciting; and it was. However, there were times when I was uncertain, scared, and completely shut down from being overwhelmed.

These first 6 months of the year were full of up and downs. A lot of downs and a lot of dwelling in the moment. Gosh, I am the queen of dwelling. I don’t know how to move on from something that truly hurt me. I’m so used to doing it, that I don’t even realize I do it.

Something Keke Palmer said-if you don’t follow her on snapchat, you are doing yourself a huge disservice- really spoke to me, she said we as human beings can reply a moment over and over again in our head, and we allow the energy of that moment, when somebody or something hurt us, to spill into other good moments, and ruin what could have been a great moment. So allow yourself to feel that bad moment for seconds, or hours, but know that only you have the power to let it go.

DeathDwellingPastStayingI never allowed myself to feel those bad moments.I never realized that I, Me and only ME, had the power to move on from that moment. I would take those moments and add them to this brick wall I was building. And every time I had a good moment I would pick out that brick that hurt me and no matter how good that moment was, I would ruin it. Self sabotaging. I would turn what could have been a beautiful moment, or what I could have turned into a positive on only focus on the negative the moment presented. Waiting for a  series of good moments to change my moo
d.

“Rock bottom became the foundation on which I built my life”

I had a couple bad moments within the first half of the year. Every time I thought I hit rock bottom, I hit a lower floor. But after I heard those words, I allowed myself to feel that moment for however long I needed and instead of using that brick to build a wall, I used it to build my foundation. J.K Rowling said, “Rock bottom became the foundation on which I built my life”.  Rather than be hurt by those moments, I’m grateful. I learned. I grew. I’m stronger.

6358791146522069822127800330_learn from the pastSo Often we are told that its our perception of a situation that defines it. If you look at it as a negative, it will be negative. If you think of it as positive it will be a positive moment. And if you look at it as a blessing, it will be a blessing. i had a lot of unexpected “negatives”, but each “negative” prepared me for the next. Had I not gone through the one before, I wouldn’t have known how to handle the next. -Blessings-
As we move into the last half of the year, lets practice changing our mind set. -Positive Vibes Only, even the so called negative ones-

I’ve been keeping to my 3 major goals- I’ve have knocked 2 off, 1 being taking my blogging seriously, 2. is well…. announcement coming soon :)- but one of my minor goals-not even sure if you could call it that so lets go with practice- is to be present in the moment. Too often I am so focused on my phone shuffling between apps that I have wasted HOURS.

So, I will be removing myself from the social media world until July and I invite anyone reading this blog to join me! Blogs are already scheduled and will still go up every Monday- so if you’re not subscribed, WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR???- I will return in July with what I was able to change, accomplish and learn. I may pop up in-between with my special announcement, who knows…. keep your eyes out on IG- @lilsisveebspot.

 

Until Next Time Guys!

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